by Jake Block
I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions. Many years ago, I decided that the only way to win in the New Year’s Resolution game was to resolve not to play it. It was a silly practice that sets people up for failure again and again, and I’m not a person known to fail, if there is anything that I can do about it. But still, millions make their declarations and give it their best shot at losing weight, making more money, going back to school or whatever, and most abandon the cause that they took up with such passion a few short days, weeks or months later.
I don’t do New Years Resolutions. Instead I practice being resolute. In its dictionary definition, it becomes more of a clarion call to action, rather than an annual wish for change. I’m not looking for change, but a continuation of my life’s momentum and an enhancement of the personal qualities and attributes that have served me from my youth to old age.
| ˈrezəˌl(y)o͞ot |
admirably purposeful, determined, and unwavering.”
Some people live their lives in fruitless pursuit of some point of minutia that, if they can control it, would lead to some measure of perfection in their lives. So, year after year, they make changes based on a date on the calendar as a new year’s ritual, hoping against all odds that they might gain control. But a simple resolution means nothing if one is not resolute in their commitment to that cause, and the trivial resolutions that one makes on the turning of the year are seldom of much import, anyway.
I know a woman, and while I love her dearly, comes to mind in this matter. She’s been determined to lose the same five pounds for the 30 years that I have known her. Now, I don’t think she NEEDS to lose five pounds, as she’s hardly “obese” or “fat” in any way… and truth be known, I kind of like a little roundness in the female form. But she tells me and time again that if she could just lose that five vexing pounds, she would be happy. If all that was keeping me, and I suppose most people, from being happy was a matter of five pounds, I’m sure that I would find some way to accomplish that goal.
Life’s circumstance and direction can be changed, but I’m here to tell you that you can’t wait for the end of one year to pass into the next to work on that goal. Changing your life can take a lifetime in and of itself, and it can be a daunting task, indeed. It takes that quality of being resolute that I spoke of earlier, and will mutate as your efforts to change become most intense. You’ll begin with that “five extra pounds,” and then find that your bliss lies far beyond that modest goal. In achieving that modest task, you’ll then feel empowered to take on another and then another until one day you realize that you aren’t the same person that you used to be, but one more powerful and personally driven to perfection, resolute in the accomplishment of your goals.
Be an agent for change in your own life. Be a visionary of what you wish to be. Be active in your own renewal, and know that the change you want will come, so long as you are resolute, and don’t simply rely on seasonal resolutions. Happy New Year!