Tempted by the Most Forbidden Fruit
by Jake Block
THIS ESSAY CONTAINS STRONG SEXUAL CONTENT AND MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR SOME READERS.
“Tempted by the fruit of another
Tempted but the truth is discovered…”
— Tempted by the Fruit of Another (Squeeze)
If you find someone that you want to marry, and hopefully wants to marry you as well, then you will, if you are like most people, opt for the traditional marriage vehicles of western culture, being the formal public marriage ceremony or the closed and perfunctory civil ceremony.
In the former, you may opt to spend several thousands of dollars for all of the bells and whistles, have perhaps 100 or more guests, a lavish dinner and reception following, and dancing into the night. Your ceremony might be in a simple church or a grand Cathedral with tons of flowers, bridesmaids and groomsmen galore, music from a simple organ to a professional choir. Your vows might be those of the organizational liturgy or perhaps heartfelt words penned by the bride and groom themselves.
If you opt for a civil ceremony, most often, it will be in a public office, presided over by a Justice of the Peace, who will say the words prescribed for the moment by the state. The Justice of the Peace may use words such as, “You are now joined to each other by love and respect, two qualities you must always remember, even when times are difficult. I wish you the best of luck in your marriage, and it is my honor to introduce Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.” Flowers are most commonly a small bouquet held by the bride. Your two or three accompanying friends also act as witnesses. Your lavish dinner might be lunch at Denny’s or, maybe Olive Garden because of the special nature of the day.
’Til death do you part. Well, maybe… there’s always the third side option, and this is one of those options for those who are traveling the Left Hand Path and are inclined toward magic and ritual. And sex.
While there are some people who do indeed mate for life, and nothing can come between them, there are millions who mate for life, yet have “romantic or sexual diversions” along the way. Doctors David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton’s book, “The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People,” was a scholarly work that documented wide cracks in the notion of monogamy, and the notion of mating for life within the animal world. Animals once thought to take one mate for life were tracked and the blood of their offspring was tested, revealing conclusively that straying is common amongst all “creatures great and small.”
There are many books on the subject that further point to the folly of man’s monogamous nature. Books like “The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Freedoms” by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton has sold over 200,000 copies, and reviewers say, “For 20 years The Ethical Slut has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships), tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive.”
Also, the book “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means In Modern Relationships” bu Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha challenges us to examine the popular notions of sexual exclusivity. As Dr. Stanton Peale, Ph.D. wrote, “Sex at Dawn irrefutably shows that what is obvious — that human beings, both male and female, are lustful — is true, and has always been so…. The more dubious its evidentiary basis and lack of connection with current reality, the more ardently the scientific inevitability of monogamy is maintained — even as it falls away around us.”
There are literally dozens of books on the subject. What does this tell us? Well, for one thing, “sex sells,” and that’s nothing new, but it also lets us know that a lot of people other than “just us” are thinking that marriage is great, but it doesn’t have to be the only way. Not for love, not for sexuality, and not for healthy, thinking adults to enjoy a non monogamous lifestyle. In a world of “serial monogamy,” where people marry, divorce and marry again as a way to “ethically” handle their need for sexual variety, it’s refreshing to find people who are viewing sexual freedom as normal and workable aspect of a healthy relationship.
Here on the Left Hand Path, we often give lip service to making our own rules and breaking taboos in the name of personal freedom and blasphemy against cultural norms. In Satanism, the eroticism in the male/female archetypical dichotomy is a potent magical theme. And history is replete with evidence for the use of sex in religious and magical workings, from the temple prostitutes of Aphrodite at her temple in Corinth, to the Dionysian and Bacchanal orgies, to the Great Rite of Wicca and beyond. And yes, we can recognize the blatant and hyperbolic eroticism of tantrism and western sex magic rely on the wanton and often salacious sexual activity between two or more consenting adults. Can such power be called upon by two committed persons? Certainly. But history also shows us that there is great power in the forbidden… the taboo… the darker side of sexuality that is often an irresistible force for men and women intent on elevating their sexuality to a magically potent, workable level.
Even amongst the heathens, there are taboos, inequalities and jealousies that must be contended with. In their wish to work with the most esoteric of mysteries, the magics of the mind and body, there are lines that society frowns on crossing for adults. Amongst Satanists, those one would expect to be unfettered by any convention, are injunctions against the inclusion of children, animals, or those who do not wish to be involved in sexual activities with others. Aside from these, pretty much any sexual activity between two or more consenting adults is permissible. Similar taboos can be found in other cultural sub-groupings.
Not all Left Hand Path groups engage in sexual ritualizations, even amongst Satanists. The Satanic Bible, by Anton Szandor LaVey includes the basic script for the Conjuration of Lust, however many modern Satanists (post LaVey) eschew the eroticisms that were considered normal during LaVey’s lifetime. My personal beliefs point to this as a failing, as a source of power lies in the sexual dynamic and the interplay between the male and female, both in metaphor and in reality.
Prior to The Church of Satan, the most active Left Hand Path group engaging in sex magic was Aleister Crowley’s offshoot group of the Ordo Templi Orientis, operating as Thelema. The elevated degrees, beginning with VII° included increasing concerns for sexual activities. The following are descriptive of individual degrees:
“* VII°: adoration of the phallus, both within and without.
* XIII°: Interaction outside the closed vessels of the vagina and the anus. Sexual fluids might be mixed with saliva and then rubbed into the absorbent tissues of the anus and perineum, as well as the external correspondences to the chakras (solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, and crown.) They might also be used to anoint the anus, then transferred as triune elixir (semen, anal elixirs, and saliva) back to the mouth. The fluids may also be anointed to the eyelids and/or the entire cabbalistic middle pillar.
* IX°: Interaction within the vagina involving either menstrual blood or the secretions of a woman when sexually aroused.
* X°: Impregnation and fertilization of an egg; also the act of creation or succession (for example, the election of the Outer Head of the Order / O.H.O.).
* XI°: two fold
— (i) Isolation in the anus where there is no interaction at all
— (ii) Interaction with excrement and small amounts of blood (when small wounds occur through intercourse),
mucus and, of course, the mucus membranes that lead directly to the blood supply.
Aleister Crowley’s own preference was that “I am inclined to believe that the XIth degree is better than the IXth degree”, diary entry of 26th August 1916. Diary 1913 about a boy showered with “foaming seed”: “While the other in his orgasm receives the waters.” “Let it be no sin to us to have buggered the virle bum.” “While the priest thrusts his thyrsus between boyish buttocks, All is accomplished; come Holy Dove!” http://bluepyramid.tripod.com/index/id4.html. “The Equinox” IV;2, Maine 1998, 405.”With all due respect to Thelemites, most groups that advocate the inclusion of sex within their rituals or practice “sex magic” in its variant forms are less detailed in the whys and wherefores of its operation, although groups involved with tantric sex might disagree, when considering the 64 described sexual positions in the Kama Sutra. To be practical, we can consider that most sexuality centers around masturbation, vaginal, oral and anal sex. In sexual rituals, this will most often be the case, with enhancements being seen in various forms of bondage and discipline, and sadomasochistic stimulative practices.
This is a good place for a common sense warning and some advice for those who would contemplate engaging in sex magic or introducing sexuality into rituals you might participate in. Know yourself and know who you are being intimate with in your ritual interactions. As you can see from the Thelemite model above, by definition, sex magic will involve intimate and physical sexual contact with others also participating in that ritual. In your research of sexuality in magic, you will very seldom see any mention of the dangers of diseases and unhealthy conditions that can be a result of being sexually active with one or more participants. That in no way means that you should assume that for some reason they do not exist. Without protection, or a medical clearance, there is a chance that you could find yourself infected by others with any number of sexually transmissible (and sometimes incurable) diseases. Even WITH protection or medical clearance, there is still a chance, although the odds are more in your favor against it.
Be cautious and know the people you are being sexually intimate with. One group of magically inclined people that I know require every member of their group to be medically tested for STDs, including HIV/AIDS, herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, gonnorrea and Hepatitis every six months. They actually have a physician in their group that does the blood draws for the group himself and keeps the group’s results on file. Even then, they have a supply of condoms in their ritual space and require their use in rituals under the auspices of the Order. To date, they tell me, they have had no problems with sexually transmitted diseases. This, however, is not the norm. Many people who work with sex magic believe that one must have skin to skin contact and the sharing of bodily fluids that naturally occur in human sexual contact. The risks that I might comfortably assume with a long time lover are not the same as the risks I might assume with a more casual contact, such as one in the context of ritual.
To my knowledge there are no reliable statistics on how many people are affected during ritual contact, and therefore I would urge caution, common sense and respect for oneself and one’s partners. A word to the wise should be sufficient here.
It’s important that those who plan on incorporating sex magic into their ritualization be on the same page with their partner or partners in the project. The idea of using sexuality in a magical ritual is to elevate the emotional aspect of the act exponentially, into the realms of hypersexuality. This is done by the extension of the sex act and the intensity of the orgasmic experience. “Two pump chumps” or “pristine princesses” would, in a proper sex ritual, find themselves like fish out of water. And I know that I’m going to sound like an out-of-touch old man here, but despite what one might think, drugs and alcohol are definitely not enhancements.
Another thing to emphasize her is the trust factor, when it comes to those who are drawn to the practice of sex magic. This is beyond the sexual safety aspects of the practice, which are important, but also includes the interpersonal safety and trust issues.
I recently had a behind the scenes on-line conversation with a friend and his wife about sex magic and how they could participate in such a thing. I responded that it was simply another form of magic, and that if they wanted to participate in it, there were any number of ways that could be accomplished. Being that they still had children at home, they automatically rejected the in-home option. The wife said that she shuddered at the thought of having to explain being caught in the act to their teenage son or daughter, and to their knowledge, there were no ritual organizations near them, or wiccan/dark pagan covens that could help them.
They assumed for some reason, that all Satanists probably used sex magic frequently, because of the lurid tales of Satanic orgies and the emphasis that LaVey had placed on magic with the naked altar and in his writings in The Compleat Witch (reissued as The Satanic Witch.) When I told them that there were indeed some Satanists who incorporated sex into their rituals at times, but it was never a prominent form of magical expression, and in today’s Satanism, many Satanists don’t use the naked altar in their ritual practices, much less some wild orgiastic gyrations in the center of naked, chanting devotees.
They told me that they had read my article on Hyperbolic Magic (https://www.thesectofthehornedgod.com/?p=3892), and would like to ask me if I could answer their questions and possibly make some suggestions on how to further their quest for what they felt would be possible for them to do, and where they might be able to do it. What precautions would be necessary… would they need to invoke demons… what were the risks… did they need to do a formal ritual for success? All of these are “good” questions, and ones that should be considered for various reasons of safety, security and of course they satisfaction level that one expects to achieve in the enactment of any ritual.
I would urge caution when practicing sex magic, in that everyone involved must be 100% committed to the act before they attempt the process. The great psychodramatic and emotional forces at work are nothing to play with, in that in engaging in sex magic you are asking someone to commit their body and mind to you in an act of ultimate trust. It crosses lines that for most people should never be approached, much less passed. Most people consider their body to be inviolate, and sacrosanct. Untouchable. This concept can fly out the window in the context of sex magic, where one is working to elevate and extend their experience, driving their body and emotions into the realms of hypersexuality. Borders in magic are often just suggestions, and are often shattered through one’s self determinate will. Consider the powerful sexual response that can happen between two people during normal sexual relations, and then consider the effects of a multiplication in response when one includes others into the mix.
One must be absolutely certain that they are emotionally ready to handle the intimacies and deep trusts inherent in the practice of sex magic before they even consider bringing others along with them on their journey. One must seriously consider not only THEIR desires and needs, but the desires and needs of others who will agree to joining with them in this very intimate and very emotionally connected process.
You have told someone that you intend to commit your body to them sexually in exchange for their equal commitment to you, that you might conquer a problem that has frustrated and harmed you physically, psychologically, financially, emotionally, or all of these at the same time, making your life difficult at best, and devastated at worst. To drag another person in deeper with you to the culmination of the ritual and, after they have stripped their souls bare before you, change your mind and blithely announce that you’ve changed your mind at the last minute dishonors them and disrespects them deeply.
Books have been written about sex magic to help you find your way. Some of these are SEX MAGIC by Frater U.D., Magia Sexualis: Sex, Magic, and Liberation in Modern Western Esotericism by Hugh Urban, Modern Sex Magick: Secrets of Erotic Spirituality by Donald Michael Kraig, Advanced Sex Magic: The Hanging Mystery Initiation by Maria de Naglowska, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas, Enochian World of Aleister Crowley: Enochian Sex Magick by Alaister Crowley, Christopher Hyatt, and Lon Milo DuQuette, and others as well.
The “magic” in sex magic is in the doing, and while many will dream and fantasize about it, only a few intrepid souls will take the risks, the challenges and the passionate path of self evaluation, self determination and self projection that is hyperbolic magic. There are deep and exciting rewards for those who can navigate the hazardous terrain, and it’s not for everyone, but if it were, would it be magic in the first place?