Consider this question: If you won’t, can’t, or refuse to “_________” for yourself, why is the obligation or expectation put on to others to do it for you?
In the last several years, I have found myself crass (and either mildly amused or apathetic) to the bully of self-entitlement , yet at the same time, I see it as an ever-spreading cultural poison deemed acceptable by the “sensitive flowers” of our society as they spread like a rampant weed that choke out self-determination. In turn, the grandiose illusion of self-entitlement has pablumized the true nature of need in terms of economic stratification.
There are, of course, many areas in life where those holding the candle of self-entitlement will stalk you, yet I have encountered few, less than a handful, that are not capable of doing what-ever it is that needs to be done on their own steam. Still, the idea of getting a second job, as I suggested in several cases was deemed repulsive. Remarkably, at the same time, “independence” off another’s dime, sweat and labor was acceptable. Go figure.
If it was one thing that Mother taught me, it was to always ask myself “have I done EVERYTHING possible to make “____” happen, on my own, to the best of my ability?” If I couldn’t find a solution, she showed me another route to get there, and believe me, it often wasn’t easy
I view self-entitlement in the way that Nietzsche views Pity; “Pity thwarts the whole law of evolution, which is the law of natural selection. It preserves whatever is ripe for destruction; it fights on the side of those disinherited and condemned by life; by maintaining life in so many of the botched of all kinds, it gives life itself a gloomy and dubious aspect.”
The question remains, how independent are you?